A book that can play as an anchor in our lives. It’s the answer to our searches regarding “How to Develop a Positive Attitude”. This book shows us the mirror about what all faults we do in our lives and how wonderful we can create it. A life where things come into our lives as per our requirement and not what others want from us. All this can be achieved by changing one thing in our lives and that is our sole Attitude.
The author goes to this level saying that “Attitude is everything”. Because it has the potential to change your health, your wealth and in all your whole life. As William James said,
“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind”.
This book contains the principles which if practised consistently has the potential to change your mind towards positivity where you will find courage in every tensed situation where you faced fear earlier. It contains the experience of 30 years and what all changes you can bring into your lives and make it better.
TARGET AUDIENCE OF THIS BOOK.
This book is for the people who are hungry to achieve something in their lives. It works on your mind and makes you realize how well you can handle situations where normally you have become fearful or in a worse situation, you had to just run away from there.
It is for every one of us. If you are negative, then it’s a jackpot for you. The concepts will definitely help you to develop your attitude in a positive direction. And if you’re already positive, you can well learn much more great things in terms of building your positive attitude to greater heights and achieve wonderful results.
This blog will take you on a journey that will bring you success and happiness when the principles are followed consistently. So, let’s get started.
Below is a list of all the Principles that you have to follow to attain the Positive attitude you have been looking for. A click on any of these links will take you to that specific principle.
- YOUR ATTITUDE IS YOUR WINDOW TO THE WORLD.
- YOU BECOME WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT.
- PICTURE YOUR WAY TO SUCCESS.
- MAKE A COMMITMENT AND YOU WILL MOVE MOUNTAINS.
- TURN YOUR PROBLEMS INTO OPPORTUNITIES.
- WATCH OUT YOUR WORDS YOU SPEAK TO YOURSELF.
- HOW ARE YOU??
- STOP COMPLAINING.
- IT’S IMPORTANT TO CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS.
- CONFRONT YOUR FEARS AND GROW.
- GET OUT THERE AND FAIL.
- WHY AM I NOT GETTING THE RESULTS??
- NETWORKING THAT GETS RESULTS.
YOUR ATTITUDE IS YOUR WINDOW TO THE WORLD.
Here the window is your thoughts and attitude towards everything and anything. In today’s competitive life our window has become so dirty that there is very little chance for any sunlight or positive energy to come in and brighten up your mind and life.
But this was not the case when you were a child. You were fresh and never accepted defeat. It was your never give up attitude which is the result that you are walking, running and jumping now. But as you grow up, there comes a point where life starts throwing some dirt at our windows or mind.
Your windows got smeared by rejection, criticism, comparison from peers, and disappointments. This dirt created doubt within yourself and finally, you developed a negative attitude.
But as is the fact you can control your mind and use it as your servant and not the master. That means you always have a choice. Either you can keep the dirt or you can try to remove the dirt and let the sunlight come in and make you the person you deserve to be. And of course, you will want to clear it. As in that’s why you are reading this.
Moreover, it’s only when you clean your attitude window that the other success principles can shine through. It’s only then you can use these empowering principles to earn more money, have more satisfying relationships and finally this will make you unstoppable.
YOU BECOME WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT.
Many of you will believe this concept as a false concept as many times it has happened that the thing which you have thought has given just the opposite result. But this concept is true and true in a way that once you start believing things in a positive way and constantly think about a particular goal, then you’ll surely take steps to move forward towards that goal.
But the bottom line is a little bit of positive thinking will not produce the desired result. It’s just as a little bit of diet doesn’t work, same if you are positive for 1 hour and the rest 15 waking hours you are negative, it just won’t work. Remember to produce positive results, the thought process must be dominated by positive thoughts.
It’s a fact that your beliefs brought you where you are today and your thinking from this point forward will take you to where you’ll be in the future. In fact, your results in every area of your life reflect your deeply held thoughts about yourself.
Just think about it once after you have got the result of your work. Didn’t you always realize that where you could have improved and brought a more positive outcome??
Even in our relationships, I am sure you surely know people who always go with the wrong people. It’s a coincidence? No, it’s the deeply held thoughts inside that individual that attracts these people into their life.
But here is the disclaimer, positive thinking doesn’t mean you won’t have any problems. Believe me, you’ll have plenty of setbacks along the way. However, if you continue to believe in yourself, take actions and persist, you’ll overcome those obstacles.
PICTURE YOUR WAY TO SUCCESS.
Here the concept of Visualization comes in place. If we take an example, when we were a child, we were open to opportunities whatever it may come. But during this time, we were handled poorly, we were criticized more instead of correcting us by our mentors in front of our friends.
This mental picture, unfortunately, has still remained on our minds which stops us from grabbing many great opportunities. This as a result has let us down to achieve our full potential.
But now we need to change these pictures and for that, we should follow some techniques so that we can use the power of visualization to be with us and not against us.
The first one is to Take responsibility for your Own Movies. This technique is to realize that you are in control of your own movies. It’s just about consciously deciding which pictures to play and which ones to not.
The second one is to Change the Meaning of the Old Movie. It means, as per the above example you cannot change the fact that you were criticized by your mentor. But you can alter the interpretation of the event like the mentor was not questioning your intelligence but it was just the wrong answer for which you were criticized.
The third one is to Create your own Pictures or movies. We can create new mental movies that will evoke powerful sensations which in turn will push us to work in support to those movies or pictures.
Remember, if you don’t take control and develop your own movies, you’ll continue to replay the old ones. And if the old ones are holding you back in any way, you need to get started today and use the power of your mind to picture your way to success.
MAKE A COMMITMENT AND YOU WILL MOVE MOUNTAINS.
Commitment is the power that exists and becomes available only when you are in that state of mind where you know exactly what you want and are fully determined not to quit until you achieve it.
It’s about the willingness to do whatever it takes regardless of the number of steps involved. And once you are committed to a certain goal, you actually begin to attract the people and circumstances necessary to accomplish that particular goal.
These people and circumstances are not that they were not present earlier but your commitment and focus has led you to find them. When you are committed, you’ll meet people you could have never planned to meet. Doors will open unexpectedly for you. These opportunities will seem like your luck is favouring but the fact remains in your committed mind which has allowed the mind to look for them.
But it’s important to realize however that this is not an overnight process, even with commitment, life will test to see how serious you are about achieving your objective. Obstacles will arise, and some may be so severe that you will tempt to abandon your goal.
And that’s when you should believe in yourself and say to yourself to never ever give up as these are temporary defeats and they will pass and you will WIN.
Committed people are going to hang in and prevail no matter their plans, budget, timetables get disturbed. If it takes a little longer than they thought, so be it. Those who aren’t committed are going to give up the ship when things don’t go their way. It’s your choice on which direction you want to go in.
TURN YOUR PROBLEMS INTO OPPORTUNITIES.
When faced with problems or setbacks in your life what is your immediate reaction?? Not only you but my first reaction too is to complain. “Why did this happen to me? What am I going to do now?
This response is quite natural. However, after this initial disappointment what we do is what makes the difference. We can either go in misery and look only into the negative aspects of our situations or we can look into benefits that the problem is offering.
And when you do this, you will see that the problem is actually an opportunity. For instance, a problem may point an adjustment which if done can improve your livelihood. But without the problem, you never would have taken that positive action.
Even when you are facing discouragement with your present situation. That is also a blessing because unless and until you feel bored or discouraged doing a particular thing, you will not look for more opportunities, more options by which your life can be better to live.
Your problems when you will look into them deeply actually serve you. They can change your perspective of life, bring out your hidden potential which you yourself have not known, encourages you to make changes and take actions, it can open new doors of possibilities, and most importantly, your problems build your confidence and self-esteem.
So, next time whenever you face any kind of problems, don’t be discouraged. Don’t let problems cloud your mind. Continuously ask yourself about what learnings this problem is trying to give you and it is for sure you will find one which will help you grow in your life in a positive direction.
WATCH OUT YOUR WORDS YOU SPEAK TO YOURSELF.
Your words have incredible power. They can build a bright future and even destroy opportunity. Your words reinforce your beliefs and your beliefs create your reality.
For example, if you are in sales field, and everyday you are using words like, “I just hate making sales calls” or “I am never going to do well in sales”. Make sure your words will come true. Because your words can be heard by your mind and it sets out to prove you right.
As, your mind will see to it that you actually don’t attract your target customers. Now, the question comes is it really what you want? Of course not. We have to stop repeating the negative words.
We all should do positive self-talk. The key is that when you hear these positive thoughts, again and again, it gets stored in your subconscious mind which helps us in taking further actions to actually make our thoughts into reality.
And if you ever want to share your positive thoughts with someone, make sure that person is positive and would do anything in his/her power to assist you.
Your words and physiology go hand in hand. For example, if someone lies to you and you get to know that. Then if you say that I am “angry” or “furious”, then you will suddenly realize that your blood pressure is getting increased whereas if you just simply use words like I am “annoyed”, you will react in a more peaceful way.
Same way if you can replace, “I’ve been destroyed” with “I’ve been set back”. “I am Determined” with “I’m unstoppable”, these exciting words can lift your spirits to a much higher level.
Remember, your words should always be with the life you want to lead and not against it.
HOW ARE YOU??
Our answer to this question seems like such a small thing. But we answer that question at least 10 times a day. So, it’s not a small thing at all. It’s a significant part of our daily conversations.
And hence, you and I should give it special attention as to what reply we usually give on this question. If your reply comprises of “Terrible”, “Lousy”, “It’s not my day”, “Not too bad”, “Same old”, etc. Then you yourself decide reading these replies does it make you excited to be with this person?
Is that the person you want to do business with?
On the other hand, if a person is using words like, “Terrific”, “Fantastic”, “Great”, “I’m on top of the world”, etc. Honestly ask to yourself didn’t these words energized and excited you? Yes, and these are the probable people with whom you would be looking to do business.
It’s this time now, that you and I look into our replies and correct it. Of course, these replies would not make your life’s problems disappear, but you will set yourself in motion towards a positive and fulfilling result in life.
As is said, “You get what you expect in life”. So, why not expect great things as in mediocre thinking is actually taking us nowhere and will not take us in the very future also.
And once you do this, you’ll feel better and others too will want to be around you and that positive results will surely come to you.
How will you feel if someone suddenly loads all his/her problems and complaints on you? Not very uplifting right? The truth is nobody likes to be around a complainer.
Now, “complains” doesn’t mean the instances when you discuss your problems in search of finding solutions. That’s actually constructive and commendable.
But these complaint includes comments including the body aches and pains. The universal fact is nobody is actually interested in anybody’s aches and pains but actually what happens is the person makes the whole environment more of a suffering type which finally encourages others to take an exit from that place.
Moreover, these illness types of complaints follow the escalation principle. For instance, you tell someone that your foot hurts and just count how many seconds it takes for that person to switch the conversation to his/her foot pain. The pain of every other person is bigger than yours. Trust me.
If you can relate these instances with yourself then you need to change your approach to a more optimistic one. As optimistic people tend to have a sense of what’s truly important for them. They focus on more of the things for which they are grateful for rather than complaining.
They are grateful for their life, work, health, house and many other small things which almost all of us can be grateful too. So, next time when you start complaining, pick up a pen and paper and start listing all the reasons you are grateful for. You will find your reasons to complain are a lot less than the reasons you can be grateful for.
IT’S IMPORTANT TO CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS.
“A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses”.The Living Bible, Proverbs 27.
We all know how our parents are concerned about who we hang out with. Our parents want to meet our friends and know all kinds of details about them. Why? Because our parents know that we’d be greatly influenced by our friends and we surely will take up some of their habits. We may sometime feel irritated by their actions but the fact is, THEY ARE CORRECT.
Our life has a huge influence of our friends. So, if you are with toxic people, they will drag you down to their level. They will convince you that you are good for nothing. Same as they are. They will barrage you with all the negative news about the economy, their life, the problems you will have in the future.
We, humans, are like sponges; We ‘soak up” whatever people around us are saying. So, instead of soaking up negative or toxic people saying, it’s important to soak up the sayings of the positive people. The people who actually do rather than just saying.
If you’re really serious about getting a raise or a promotion or a successful growing business, then you have to start associating with people who can take you to the next level. As you do this, you’ll feel better about yourself and have renewed energy to achieve your goals. You’ll surely become more positive and the kind of person others love to be around.
CONFRONT YOUR FEARS AND GROW.
“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain”RALPH WALDO EMERSON
If you want to be successful, you must be willing to be uncomfortable. Yes, to achieve your goals and realize your potential, you must be willing to be uncomfortable. To do things that you’re afraid to do. That’s how you develop your potential.
This fear does not include any physical risk of course but these risks are those challenges that stand in the way of your personal and professional growth. Of course, every person has a different fear threshold. The fear can even be asking someone for directions. But overcoming these fears is the main thing and also the best thing.
But this overcoming fear is completely a choice. You can either opt for it or you don’t but there is a price of not opting it. The price is of low self-esteem, you feel powerless and frustrated, you lead an uneventful, boring life. Trust me, you and I both don’t deserve this life. We deserve the best and the best will come when we choose to overcome our fears.
So, how to overcome fear? By building a “can-do” attitude. This will provide you that extra push needed. When you believe you can do something, you have the courage to move forward despite being afraid. Decide to become a participant and live your life instead of watching others fulfill their dreams.
Life will not reward you if you refuse to expose yourself to difficulties and challenges. It’s important that you put yourself in a position to win, and that means taking action despite fear.
“Failure is only the opportunity to more intelligently begin again”Henry Ford.
As adults, most of us become a lot more concerned about the opinions of others, often hesitating because people may criticize us. But we were not this from our childhood, we were persistent, we believed in repetition and we felt joy in doing it no matter how much it takes to succeed. Of course, not to forget the power of positive encouragement that we got from our parents who were extremely supportive in our growth journey.
But as we grow older, we think falling off as a bad thing, rather than an essential part of the process of achieving our goal. We take our eyes off from our goals and instead focus on other people opinion which most of the time are not at all encouraging.
We must remember that to develop a new skill or a target, we must be committed. Being proficient at any skill requires time, effort and discipline and the willingness to persevere through whatever difficulties may arise.
All the big personalities we know, realize that success, to a large extent is a matter of trying every day, developing yourself and keep making adjustments along the way. It’s just about trying that one more time before the day ends.
When you build up this attitude of trying every day, for you there will be no such thing as “failure”. There are only results, some more successful than others. Failure doesn’t mean you’ve reached the end of the line and that success isn’t possible. The only time success is impossible is when you quit. Quitting is final.
WHY AM I NOT GETTING THE RESULTS??
If you aren’t getting the results you expect, then it’s time to ask some questions to yourself. The questions are:
- Do I have an unrealistic timetable?? Maybe you expect to skip certain steps required for success and look for the grand scale. Look, success is achieved by climbing one step at a time. Nobody can skip steps and expect greater results. Be patient with yourself and don’t compare your progress with others. Just maintain a great attitude, take action, make adjustments and the results will surely come.
- Am I truly committed?? It’s essential to be willing to do whatever it takes and that you banish any thought of giving up before you accomplish your objective.
- Do I have too many discouraging influences?? Analyse your surroundings, if you hang around with negative people who are doing very little in their own lives, your energy and commitment will automatically drain out. Thus, develop a network of achievers or at least people who are trying to achieve something big.
- Am I preparing to succeed?? Successful people are always sharpening their skills. Those getting negative outcomes often do the same things over and over again without making necessary adjustments. So, accept the fact that you don’t already know it all and find resources that will keep you on track.
- Am I truly willing to fail?? Failure is inevitable. You will encounter defeat prior to success. Truth is when you’re not afraid to fail, you’re well on the way to success. So, welcome failure and not avoid it.
NETWORKING THAT GETS RESULTS.
“You can get everything in life you want if you’ll just help other people get what they want”.Zig Ziglar
You can’t succeed on a grand scale all by yourself, and here is where Networking plays a big part in our lives. Networking is a way to leverage your own efforts and accelerate the pace at which you get results. After all, the more solid relationships you build, the greater your opportunities for success.
In the business arena, networking can generate new business leads, can increase employment opportunities, helps to find the right people, and also provide valuable information and resources.
Not only in the business arena, but personally too networking can enhance our social relationships by introducing to new friends, help you to become familiar with people of varying ethnic and cultural background, provide valuable information and resources, and contribute to your spiritual growth.
Now, there is a technique that will help us in creating more stronger networks. They are:
- Project a winning attitude.
- Participate actively in groups and organizations.
- Serve others in your network.
- Be a good listener. You will be considered as a concerned and intelligent individual.
- Call people from time to time just because you care.
- Meet people every day and take it as an advantage.
- Treat every person as important.
- Be willing to go beyond your comfort zone.
- Acknowledge others work.
- Send a prompt note after meeting to someone for the first time.
Remember networks are built over time. So be patient! Build a solid foundation of relationships and continue to expand and strengthen them. You’ll have to put in a lot before you begin reaping the big rewards.
With this, we come to the end of this blog. A blog which has shown me the wonders that my attitude can bring in my personal life. Now, I truly believe that to change my circumstances, first I have to change my attitude and for this, I have to start thinking differently.
The principles which are discussed here are the principles which almost every successful individual follows, and if you and I decide to follow this, I truly feel we can change our life. It’s about making that decision and joining the path where only 5% of people go.
Only 5% of people actually follow the discussed principles. Only a few actually consistently maintain a positive attitude, watches the words he/she uses, even after knowing that his/her words actually program their mind for success or failure.
Few have the guts to confront their fears. And you and I both should take up the challenge to be among those few people, that 5% of people who will actually do something with the commitment for the success we both deserve.